With the advent of hatred and disgust among individuals,
among groupings thereof and among nations even, with the reality of terrorism
and criminality, with the phenomenon of killings and murders as a matter of
course, it might not be altogether strange and futile to think and ponder about
love – more specifically about Progressive
Love between a man and a woman during these days of rancor and hatred. Much less is it vain to think and talk about
love that can progressively bring two individuals at least, to become a community
and to be thus ultimately in loving communion one with the other.
So it is that after a man and a woman met by chance or on purpose,
after some time of knowing one another, after enjoying the presence of each
other and in effect feeling at ease and savouring joy in the company of one another
such is the usual preamble that usually
brings about the following Progressive
Love between them in terms of the following standard chapters:
1st. Friendly
love: There is the feeling of
comfort and joy, the experience of ease and delight plus the anticipation of
more relational interactions precisely
for the experience of even more ease, more leisure and pleasure to the delight
of the parties concerned.
2nd. Consuming love: Then comes to fore a more insistent and
consistent search for and joy in one another’s companionship such that
bilateral loving attention and
concentration cancel arguments and contradictions, overlook persistent
admonitions to the contrary.
3rd. Spousal love: So it is that time seems to pass in a hurry
such that yesterday is irrelevant, the present is what counts, considering that
the future is infallibly bright, all arguments to the contrary notwithstanding. In a word, optimism is rule of the time.
4th. Conjugal love. This is the eventual conclusion of the
above-cited love in its progressive mode.
It is not really one plus one equals two. Rather, it is one man plus one woman equals
one integral human reality that makes the joys and pains, the laughter and
tears of one as those also of the other.
5th. Parental love. The progressive love as above expressed finds
ultimate conclusions in its generative phenomenon when one is more than just
one plus one but also plus others precisely coming from the said oneness. So it is that the man and the woman become a bigger one.
It is in distinct love songs that the delightful nature,
noble finality and startling attributions of love are expressed and affirmed in
the most revealing language and in the most fervent way – just as
proclaimed by the well-known song “I’ll Be Loving You Eternally” which in
down-to-earth reality means the continuous and consistent singer’s love for the
other – as they become two-in-one and one in
more that is equals unity, union, communion.
Such is love – not hatred, neither criminality or downright
killing as anytime, anyhow, anywhere taking place during these times and age.
