Monday, August 14, 2017

ERRANCY ABOUT MARRIAGE: DEPRECIATION OF THE FAMILY. EGOISTIC MENTALITY.


 Again and again, there are certain individuals, some supposedly honorable public officials included, who are resolved to undermine the nature of marriage, to destroy the unity of the family and thus demonstrate their egoistic thinking and consequent errant value system.  So it is that their composite clamor is that marriage should be soluble at the personal instance of the husband and/or the wife, that the profound painful impact of a broken family upon the children concerned is not worth any serious consideration, and that it is the man and/or the woman who are vested with the egoistic posture of whether to stay married or not.

Furthermore, there are interesting questions that the said individuals and public officials have not yet bothered to answer:  How many marriages may a man or a woman enter into, get out of precisely to get married again and again with someone else – and get out of it again and again as well? How many families may a father and/or mother break apart to the pain and confusion, the shame and stigma of their children?  And considering that marriage is a solemn bilateral conjugal covenant, may individuals with proven egoistic personality constitution ever be allowed to get married at all – and even have a family at all?  So it is worth asking:  Are men and women who break their marriage vows as a matter of course, who decimate their families here and there, psychologically and/or emotionally really fit to actually get married at all?

No less than “The State recognizes the sanctity of family life and shall protect and strengthen the family as a basic autonomous social institution...”  (Constitution of the Philippines, Sec. 12).  Will those against not only the sanctity but also the welfare or well-being of family life counter the Philippine Constitution in view of their individualistic stance on family life and consequent disdain of the marriage institution?

So it is that “Marriage is a special contract of permanent union between a man and a woman entered into in accordance with law for the establishment of conjugal and family life...” (Family Code of the Philippines, Art. 1).  Will those promoting temporary marriages for a man and/or a woman likewise promote artificial birth control – abortion not really excluded – to get rid of family life, to rule out conjugal procreative responsibility?


And so it is that in reality and truth, marriage is a “Covenant by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of their whole life, and which by its own very nature is ordered to the well-being of the spouses, and...children.” (Code of Canon Law, Ca. 1055 par 1)  A Covenant – akin to a Blood Compact    - is a noble and ennobling, lasting and insoluble option once entered into.  So is it that, properly speaking, individuals with no word of honor, with a given disability to keep and live a solemn commitment should be the last ones to get married at all, much less to have a family.  Those who do not subscribe to the nobility of marriage, to the significance of family life and/or the gravity of conjugal union, should be the last individuals to get married at all.