Monday, April 11, 2016


In the realm of truth, in the sphere of justice and in the domain of peace, marriage is nothing less than a really serious and truly sacred pact between a man and a woman whereby they establish between their two selves, one and only spousal partnership for a lifetime.  By its very nature, the said unique bonding is ordained for the good and well-being of the spouses themselves plus the procreation, upbringing and formation of the children they brought into the world.  The said triad equals the family.

So it is that marriage is definitely very much more than a mere contract – a plain understanding, a mere agreement, a simple consensus – no matter how elaborate, how sincere and pleasing.  It has the spirit and implications of a Blood Compact between a man and a woman thus making marriage some kind of a very serious and truly noble bonding for a lifetime between two individuals who emerge as but one consummate and hallowed pairing.  In fact, marriage is not only two-in-one, one-in-two but also many in one with the emergence of a family.

Being thus much more noble than but just being a mere contract or an agreement, much more serious than simply an accord or a conformity, marriage is nothing less than a “Covenant”, i.e., a sacred vow, a solemn oath, a lifetime bonding.  It is thus insoluble not simply because it is a oneness, a union but even a communion between a man and woman as husband and wife, and eventually as mother and father, as grandfather and grandmother until one or both of them are gone from this temporal world.

So it is that an honest to goodness marital bonding between a man and woman does not accept someone else, much less other parties that in effect means one with someone else or two with others that simply means and spells adultery – breaking the bond, doing away with the union and communion, junking the marriage as a mere inconvenience.  The husband and the wife are two, with each other giving his/her whole person  to the other that thus makes them one in thinking and acting.  It is a one-to-one relationship that  thus makes an exclusive composite of two-selves into one whole.  The moment the said exclusivity is done away with, then the blood compact is betrayed, the covenant is violated.  And when this comes about, the husband, the wife and children are all losers.

The reality and implications of bonding applied to marriage in effect means a consummate and lifelong unifying phenomenon – neither simply putting up a relationship nor merely setting up a partnership.  So it is that getting married when either one or both parties is/are precisely incapacitated for marriage intents and purposes – anyone of such a liability ipso facto equals non-marriage.

Let it be openly said wherefore in all sincerity and candor that the marriage Covenant is not meant for all – in the same way that not all are meant for marriage.  An option for a lifetime? An indissoluble union for life?  A decision made and kept until death?  Conclusion:  Marriage is not for anyone, for everyone Though but true.