“A marriage contracted by any party who, at the time of the celebration, was psychologically incapacitated to comply with the essential marital obligations, shall likewise be void even if such an incapacity becomes manifest only after its solemnization.” Thus provides no less than the Family Code of the Philippines concretely with reference to ab initio null and void marriages on account of an incapacitated psyche proven existent before and during the wedding-in-fact (Article 36).
What is psychological incapacity? What is the more common external actuation or behavioral pattern of someone psychologically incapacitated for marriage? Who has the credentials to pronounce that a man and/or woman is psychologically incapacitated for marriage? What usually happens when someone psychologically incapacitated in fact get married? Is there a real and permanent cure for psychological incapacity concretely for marriage intents and purposes? In so many words:
Psychological incapacity in simple terms means the disability of the human psyche on account of either endogenous (unhealthy genes) or extraneous (adverse circumstantial) causes. The easier way to define or declare the said malady of human psyche is making reference to the constitution – the spirit, the ego or the anime – of a person. When the human psyche is disabled for marriage, then there is psychological incapacity.
The more common external acts and behavior of someone afflicted with psychological incapacity are indifference or apathy, irresponsibility or undependability, immature or infantile behavior. There is no ill-will in the strict sense but usually certain endogenous disabling personal features.
Even the common tao can say who is nonchalant of or indifferent to external stimuli, who is immature and wherefore irresponsible and undependable. Nevertheless, it is usually clinical psychologists and psychiatrists who are professionally qualified to pronounce such a human incapacity or adversity.
When someone psychologically incapable in fact gets married, he or she acts and behaves contrary to the nature and objectives of matrimonial covenant. And the usual failure it brings about is the moral impossibility of realizing the spousal good of the de facto married couple.
Sad but true, to these days, there are no known real and permanent cure for psychological incapacity. Yes, there are pills and the like to attenuate it every now and then. But, a real and lasting cure, there is none yet so far. Reason: A sick human psyche is not usually receptive of durable curative intervention.
What then? How could someone know that he or she is psychologically incapable for marriage? What does one do when he or she comes to feel and/or to know that marriage is not for him or her? Must the man of the woman then simply stay single – or eventually become a priest or a nun?